Tšabo e ncha ea bana

Tšabo e ncha ho bana, le eona e pepesitsoe

Bana ba tšaba lefifi, phiri, metsi, ho tloheloa ba le bang… Batsoali ba tseba ka hlooho linako tseo ka tsona bana ba bona ba ntseng ba tšoha le ho lla hoo ba tšohileng. Ka kakaretso, ba boetse ba tseba ho ba khutsisa le ho ba tiisetsa. Lilemong tsa morao tjena, tšabo e ncha e hlahile har'a ba banyenyane ka ho fetisisa. Litoropong tse khōlō, ho boleloa hore bana ba pepesehela litšoantšo tse mabifi ka ho eketsehileng tse ba tšosang. Decryption le Saverio Tomasella, ngaka ea mahlale a batho le psychoanalyst, mongoli oa "Tšabo e nyane kapa tšabo e kholo", e hatisitsoeng ke likhatiso tsa Leduc.s.

Tšabo ke eng baneng?

Saverio Tomasella oa pele oa hlalosa: "E 'ngoe ea liketsahalo tsa bohlokoahali tseo ngoana ea lilemo li 3 a tla ba le tsona ke ha a khutlela sekolong sa bana. Ngoana o tloha lefats'eng le sirelelitsoeng (leokelo, nanny, mme, nkhono…) ho ea lefats'eng le nang le bana ba bangata ba banyenyane, le laoloang ke melao e thata le lithibelo. Ka bokhutšoane, o kena moferefereng oa bophelo bo kopanetsoeng. Ka linako tse ling e na le phihlelo e le "moru" oa sebele, sekolo ke sebaka sa pele sa lintho tsohle tse sibolotsoeng. Bana ba bang ba tla nka nako e eketsehileng kapa e nyenyane hore ba ikamahanye le tikoloho ena e ncha. Ka linako tse ling esita le maemo a itseng a tla tšosa mohlankana e monyenyane ea ntseng a nka mehato ea hae ea pele sekolong sa bana. “Ho molemo hore batho ba baholo ba be seli haholo nakong ena ea bohlokoa ea ho qala sekolo. Ka sebele, setsebi sa kelello se hatisa taba ea hore re qobella bana ba banyenyane hore ba ikemele, ba ikemele, ba mamele batho ba bangata ba baholo, ba latele melao ea boitšoaro bo botle, joalo-joalo. "Litaelo tsena kaofela ha li na kelello ho ngoana e monyenyane. Hangata o tšaba ho etsa hampe, ho khesoa, ho se tsamaee hantle, ”ho rialo setsebi. Haeba ngoana a ka boloka kobo ea hae ho eena, e ea mo tšelisa. "Ke mokhoa oa hore ngoana a itšepe, ho kenyelletsa le ka ho anya monoana oa letsoho, mokhoa ona oa ho kopana le 'mele oa hae ke oa bohlokoa", ho bolela setsebi sa psychoanalyst.

Tšabo e ncha e tšosang bana

Dr Saverio Tomasella explains that he receives more and more children in consultation who evoke fears linked to new modes of communication in large cities (stations, metro corridors, etc.). “The child is confronted with certain violent images on a daily basis”, denounces the specialist. Indeed, screens or posters stage an advertisement in the form of a video, for example the trailer of a horror film or one comprising scenes of a sexual nature, or of a video game, sometimes violent and above all which is meant to be adults only. “The child is thus confronted with images which do not concern him. Advertisers primarily target adults. But as they are broadcast in a public place, children see them anyway, ”explains the specialist. It would be interesting to understand how it is possible to have a double talk to parents. They are asked to protect their children with parental control software on the home computer, to ensure that they respect the signage of films on television, and in public spaces, “hidden” and not intended images. toddlers are displayed without censorship on city walls. Saverio Tomasella agrees with this analysis. “The child says it clearly: he is really afraid of his images. They are scary for him, ”confirms the specialist. Moreover, the child receives these images without filters. The parent or accompanying adult should discuss this with them. Other fears concern the tragic events in Paris and Nice in recent months. Faced with the horror of the attacks, many families were hit hard. “After the terrorist attacks, televisions broadcast a lot of highly violent images. In some families, the evening television news can take up a fairly large place at mealtimes, in a deliberate desire to “keep informed”. Children living in such families have more nightmares, have less restful sleep, pay less attention in class and sometimes even develop fears about the realities of everyday life. “Each child needs to grow up in an environment that reassures and reassures them,” explains Saverio Tomasella. “Faced with the horror of the attacks, if the child is young, it is better to say as little as possible. Do not give details to the little ones, talk to them simply, do not use vocabulary or violent words, and do not use the word “fear”, for example ”, also recalls the psychoanalyst.

Maikutlo a batsoali a ne a lumellana le tšabo ea ngoana

Saverio Tomasella o hlalositse: "Ngoana o phela boemo ntle le hole. Ka mohlala, li-poster kapa li-skrini li libakeng tsa sechaba, tse arolelanoang ke motho e mong le e mong, batho ba baholo le bana, hole le kokoana ea lelapa e khothatsang. Ke hopola moshanyana ea lilemo li 7 ea ileng a mpolella hore na o ne a tšohile hakaakang ha a le metro ha a bona setšoantšo sa kamore e qoeletseng lefifing ", ho paka setsebi. Hangata batsoali baa ipotsa hore na ba etse joang. “Haeba ngoana a bone setšoantšo, hoa hlokahala ho bua ka sona. Pele ho tsohle, motho e moholo o lumella ngoana hore a itlhalose, 'me o bula moqoqo ka ho fetisisa. Mo botse hore na o ikutloa joang ha a bona setšoantšo sa mofuta ona, se etsa'ng ho eena. Mo bolelle 'me u tiise hore ka sebele, ho ngoana ea lilemong tsa hae, ke ha tlhaho ho tšaba, hore o lumellana le seo a se utloang. Batsoali ba ka eketsa hore ehlile hoa khopisa ho pepesetsoa litšoantšo tsa mofuta ona,” oa hlalosa. "E, hoa tšosa, u nepile": setsebi sa psychoanalyst se nahana hore motho ha aa lokela ho tsilatsila ho e hlalosa joalo. Keletso e 'ngoe, ha ho hlokahale hore e lule e bua ka taba ena, hang ha lintho tsa bohlokoa li se li boletsoe, motho e moholo a ka tsoela pele, ntle le ho fana ka bohlokoa bo boholo ho ketsahalo, e le hore a se ke a tšoantšisa boemo. "Tabeng ena, motho e moholo a ka ba le boikutlo bo botle, a mamela ka hloko seo ngoana a se utloileng, ho seo a se nahanang ka sona", ho phethela psychoanalyst.